Dreams & Dolls


Most little kids play with dolls … its an opportunity to act out how we want to be when we grow up.

Then when you go up – do you act how you played you would be when you were little?

It’s an important question and even more important act to do –
REMEMBER how you used to PLAY!

There are so many ways to play and exploring the ways – – -allows you to discover your MAGIC PASSION LOVE – your energy source – when used, life feels good and when shared – WOW!!

One friend of mine who is a FCW Society member, was going thru a patch of not enjoying her life so much – just wasn’t feeling so good. So… a few of us were talking one night and someone suggested, “Let’s take a burlesque dance class!” and someone else suggested, “Let’s hire a dance teacher to teach us a PRIVATE class.”

Within the next few days, we had found our teacher, Jo Boobs and a space to hold the class. We had 2 classes and by the end of the first class, my friend was very excited about what she had discovered. The next thing she knew, she was entered in a amateur Burlesque contest in Williamsburg. We trudge out there from Manhattan at 11pm (I am one of those manhattanites !) because we wanted to support our friend and it was awesome – SHE WON.

Now … 3 years later, she hosts a weekly burlesque show KITTY NIGHTS on the coolest corner in the East Village. She is Fem Appeal – a woman who uses and shares MAGIC PASSION LOVE!

Here is Fem Appeal with Tom the 21st century doll, who I share with her whenever she wants to perform with him!



“keep passing the open windows…”

Sometimes, one starts out with – an idea – a project – and they take the next step. That is to start the project – then … as time passes, they realize – it just isn’t going right. Things arern’t working out the way you had envisioned them to pan out – so what does one do!? CHANGE COURSE!! Rethink the situation! GET HONEST with what your main objectives are? Allow yourself to make mistakes and learn from them!! It’s OK change your mission – if you stay on the course even though it’s not working out or feeling right – people could get hurt.

Well, this is what exactly happened with Trickydame’s idea to have Tom 4 Prez! It sounded good – it was fun to say before 2008 happened. It was great fun working with all of the people we worked with and talked to about Tom 4 Prez but … something was always not right. Trickydame isn’t a news junkie – nor is she really that interested in listening to the back and forth banter of “who’ll be better president?, US politics just doesn’t make sense anymore – let’s just vote right now – get it over with and start taking action!

Trickydame takes action by producing “Defenders of” events – its her chance to meet Free Thinkers who believe in similar causes that support the well being of the planet and it’s inhabitants. There are a lot of good people in politics working for the US Citizens – just wish we would hear about them instead of men hiring prostitutes!?! Despite the state of our MEDIA, our POLITICS, and our ECONOMY – – – Trickydame and Tom have met a lot of people and organizations who are taking action that does SUPPORT the well being of the planet and its in habitants!! People who use their Magic Passion Love daily!!

So Trickydame took a moment to consider what does Tom really represent … a childhood dream coming true, which is about finding inner peace. Because Trickydame was able to come to NYC to live – after spending so many years pretending in the basement – she has found a sense of inner peace. If more people could find Inner Peace … perhaps there might be World Peace. Maybe talking about Magic Passion Love more will help?! Who knows?

The other reason why, Trickydame can’t do the Tom 4 Prez project anymore … Tom is just a doll after all! So … INTRODUCING
Tom 4 Peace. (period)
Tom 4 Peace

Long before Perez Hilton (celebrity blogger) loved The Orion Experience, Tom and other New Yorkers have long known how fucking cool this band is! Tom is very happy for that Perez and others around the world are discovering The Orion Experience!

We are the ones” – Tom 4 Prez’s official political campaign song by The Orion Experience!

This HIT SINGLE is on the album “COSMIC CANDY”

WATCH THE VIDEO – Buy the Song on I-tunes !

The eclectic quintet, fronted by former Kitty in the Tree singer Orion Simprini, is fresh on the scene. Having formed in January 2005 their eager excitement explodes from each track on the debut album. Their carefree, positive vibe recalls late ’60s and early ’70s songwriting, spiked with sweet harmonies and toe-tapping beats. If The Orion Experience doesn’t make you want to leap from your chair and dance, you might want to check your pulse.

For Orion, who handpicked each member of the group for their personalities, the band’s camaraderie is the key element to their solid sound. “Every individual is important, but put together, they create a powerful, positive energy,” Orion said of The Orion Experience, which, despite bearing his name he also calls “more of a collective than one person.” (this is one of the reasons Tom 4 Prez, Trickydame and Ms America love The Orion Experience)

The Orion Experience is:
Orion Simprini
vocals, rhythm guitar

Linda Horwatt
backing vocals, keys

Erik Paparazzi
lead guitar, backing vocals

Kareem Lamarr
bass guitar

Marcus Ferrar
drums, backing vocals

band pics

The Orion Experience is Tom’s friend!


Defenders of Love
On Wednesday, February 13 DEFENDERS gathered with Trickydame & Tom 4 Prez
for an evening of music, poetry, drinking, raffles, dancing, and bake sale – all to raise funds and awareness for Single Mothers.

Great performances by:
(left to right)
Carla Rhodes
Toy Soldiers
Ray Munoz

Readings by:
Julie Metz
Nicole Goodwin
Bianca Stone
Carly Sachs
Nicole Bufiano

MUSIC BY: DJ Shinratek

Thanks to Cake Shop staff for working with us.

Raffle tickets were sold and prizes won! SPECIAL THANKS to all of the people who donated raffle prizes:
Amy Sedaris
Make Workshop
Healing Finances/Emotional Money
Energizing Nutrition
Backyard Design
Lina Tegman Photography
Trixie and Radar
Just Bubbly
Brooklyn Cookie
Rachel Sarah – Single Women Seeking
Bella DePaulo – Singled Out

and here are a few of the winners!

Proceeds of the Raffle goes to support The Brooklyn Young Mothers’ Collective. The mission of the BYMC is to break the cycle of generational poverty among pregnant and parenting low-income mothers by helping the actively engage in improving the conditiosns that impact their lives.

Money was also collected to buy a birthday present for Paris, a lovely young girl who is being raised by a really cool MOM, Candi!

It truly was a wonderful evening with so many people sharing the MAGIC PASSION LOVE with each other. Sharing positive energy can only help make the world a better place … this is what Defenders do! DEFENDERS are a group of world citizens who take action to support the well being of the planet and all of its in habitants. Defenders are everywhere!
SPECIAL THANKS TO Jessica Ryan and Sydney for all of their help with the show – I’m very grateful for you both! (xojo)
photos by Julie Staub

Here is an article from Women eNews and Tom 4 Prez is proud to share their stories!

Seven Who Topple Tyrannies

Run Date: 12/24/07
By Sarah Seltzer
WeNews correspondent
Leymah Gbowee, Sharon Hanshaw, Cristi Hegranes, Joan Holmes, Kate Kendell, Daisy Khan, Rebekah Kiser
Leymah Gbowee, Mobilizer of Peace

“War erupted when I was 17, fresh out of high school,” says peace activist Leymah Gbowee of the brutal conflicts that shook Liberia in the past two decades. “The anger, the pain, the trauma, was not just for one year or one month. I needed to do something to make a difference.”
Gbowee brought together several dozen women in 2002 to form a group to end the war. “Women are the ones that bear the greatest burden,” she says. “We are also the ones who nurture societies.”
The women were determined to have peace and made their sit-ins and blockades a constant reminder to the government of Charles Taylor that they would not stand down. Eventually, Taylor agreed to a meeting, and promised to enter peace talks with rebel groups.
Gbowee and the women followed the negotiations and stood vigil outside. But seven weeks passed and no cease-fire. The women lost patience, so they surrounded the building, locked their arms, and informed the men with a steely resolve that they would be held hostage until a deal was struck. The women continued their work during the transitional period, becoming actively involved in the disarmament of fighters and preparing for elections.
One of Gbowee’s proudest accomplishments was getting Muslim women and Christian women in Liberia to come together. They mobilized activists in nine of Liberia’s 15 provinces, encompassing over 2,000 women, and their efforts to support Ellen Johnson-Sirleaf’s successful campaign to become president of Liberia and the first elected female head of state in Africa.
After the elections in 2005, Gbowee earned a master’s degree in conflict transformation and peacebuilding at Eastern Mennonite University, in Harrisonburg, Va. In 2006, with two colleagues–Thelma Ekiyor and Ecoma Alaga–she started the Women Peace and Security Network Africa, based in Accra, Ghana. The organization promotes women’s strategic participation and leadership in peace and security governance throughout the continent.
They work with women in Liberia, the Ivory Coast, Nigeria and Sierra Leone–four nations wracked by conflict or clashes–on peace activism, literacy and electoral politics.
“The classical idea of security is a threat to the state,” she says. “What we are saying is in order to address security issues and peace issues we need to look at the human component and women need to be involved in these discussions.”
But the peace work also shifts gender dynamics. “Women have the drive to do things that never have been done before. It is the springboard that enables them to say, ‘I want to go back to school, to be economically empowered.’ A lot of women can eloquently say what their needs are now.”

Sharon Hanshaw, Take-Charge Responder to Katrina

After Hurricane Katrina hit Biloxi, Miss., a group of 50 women began meeting at a funeral home. Sharon Hanshaw had owned her own hair salon, which was damaged beyond repair, and she didn’t think of the group’s meetings as a long-term arrangement.
She devoted herself to repairing the damage and drifted toward activism.
Soon, the women at the funeral home formed Coastal Women for Change and the members asked Hanshaw to be executive director. Although daunted by the skills she’d need to run a nonprofit, she was humbled and took the chance to learn, drawing on her own childhood as the daughter of a respected Baptist preacher who instilled in her an ethic of helping others in need.
The hurricane is gone, but Coastal Women for Change remains. Hanshaw hopes that as their profile rises and they raise more money she will be able to go out into the street more and speak with people about their problems, leaving the organizing to others. She also wants to offer a decent salary and insurance to employees. The group is currently funded by a small grant and the efforts of volunteers.
The Coastal Women for Change office is in Biloxi’s Ward 2, a place Hanshaw says has been “left behind” since Katrina. The group offers support groups for the elderly, teens and single parents, and facilitates training for child-care providers. Hanshaw finds that when she speaks with people in the community about what’s needed most, it’s often such basics as employment and a roof over their heads.
“The government doesn’t want poor people to survive,” says Hanshaw. “People come in with nowhere to live.”
Women have a special mission and a special opportunity in the wake of the crisis, she says. As much as it is about repairing the coast, it’s also about enabling a new group of voices. “Men didn’t always listen to women. We have to put our foot down and say, listen!”
The women in her group, she says, never thought they could have access to the mayor, to official forums, to lawmakers. But now, among other victories, members have gained several seats on the mayor’s subcommittees in Biloxi.
“I want voices to be heard,” Hanshaw says. “I want women to know that people hear them.”

Ida B. Wells Award Winner Cristi Hegranes, Raiser of Women’s Voices

Cristi Hegranes couldn’t escape the idea that her definition of journalism was different than the journalism she had practiced on a daily basis as a foreign correspondent and reporter in San Francisco.
She recalled a moment in Nepal when she was talking to a local woman and decided to hand her pen and paper over, asking her to narrate her own story.
From encounters like these, Hegranes dreamed up the idea of a nonprofit that would enable women in developing regions to become reporters and produce fair journalism that accurately reflected their lives and issues.
“I realized a women-centered program would do the most for disseminating information and empowering the community,” she says.
With only her determination, she founded the Press Institute for Women in the Developing World in 2006, running it out of a loft above her Bay Area apartment.
Hegranes quit her job at the San Francisco Weekly and put together a business plan, surpassing her initial goals by raising $250,000 in 18 months, more than twice what she planned.
“It’s an idea whose time has come,” she says. “Globally, people are hungry for information that comes with no strings attached.”
A board of 12 volunteers helped her start a journalism training program in rural Mexico serving mostly indigenous women and later another program in Nepal. When they interview applicants for the five slots in each location, Hegranes says there is a “line around the block.”
Hegranes designed a weeklong journalism curriculum that emphasizes the basics of news and feature reporting as well as developing self-awareness and eliminating bias. The women then have a six-month period of beginning reporting, where they work extensively on their first stories–writing, reporting, editing and re-writing–and a sixth-month advanced stage. After that, they are hired as senior reporters by the Press Institute.
Their reporters give stories away to local radio stations to help spread news beyond the literate and have gained access to space in some national and local media. They also have a newswire online.
Hegranes says the Press Institute also changes women’s lives and lifts them out of poverty. “The unemployed, street workers, domestic laborers; they live in a society where they are utterly disrespected,” says Hegranes, who is 27. “I’m blown away every day to see them choose journalism and use it to elevate themselves.”

Joan Holmes, Feeder of Women’s Futures

In the mid-1990s during a trip to India for The Hunger Project, Joan Holmes read a report called “The Asian Enigma” that changed her life. It detailed how child malnutrition rates are highest in South Asia and the reason “was rooted deep in the soil of inequality between men and women,” she recalls.
From that time, enabling women to have a voice in decisions that affect their own lives became the top priority and a driving force for Holmes, the founding president of The Hunger Project.
Founded in 1977 in New York, The Hunger Project works with women and men in the developing world to end their own hunger on a sustainable basis. For the past decade, recognizing and empowering women as the key change agents has been its main focus.
For example, in Bangladesh, National Girl Child Day was created by The Hunger Project. It is celebrated every year on Sept. 30 when “the entire country is mobilized to recognize and honor the value of little girls,” says Holmes. “There were 2,500 events last year.”
In India, The Hunger Project trains rural women who serve in local government. Holmes recalls standing at the door of a meeting and watching women come in with their faces covered by their saris, women who were normally identified as the “mother of,” the “sister of” or the “daughter of” someone else. As they were addressed by their first names, they cried at finally being recognized as an individual in their own right.
The Hunger Project has also created the HIV/AIDS and Gender Inequality Workshop in Africa. More than 400,000 people have participated in these sessions that enable women and men come to understand how gender inequality fuels the spread of the deadly virus.
In sub-Saharan Africa, Holmes pioneered a training, credit and savings program for female farmers, who produce 80 percent of Africa’s food. The small loans allowed them to provide for families and change their lives.
“The good news is there is a lot of rhetoric about the importance of women,” says Holmes, “but a vast majority of programs aren’t consistent with the rhetoric.”
The challenge to the international community is clear, she adds, when the world only targets 0.1 percent of international aid to directly assist women and girls. Holmes says that rural women in the developing world must be directly targeted as agents of change, otherwise hunger and poverty will persist and hopes and dreams for a world community will never be realized.

Kate Kendell, Galvanizer for Lesbian Equity

Growing up in Utah, where religion was entwined with government policies, Kate Kendell learned to “appreciate the importance of the state and the oppressiveness of the state.”
Later, as a staff counsel for the American Civil Liberties Union, Kendell fought for separation of church and state and litigated on behalf of prisoners and lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender youth. She felt inspired by the way the progressive movement of the late ’80s and early ’90s worked.
“Any one community is too small to have any impact on social justice or political discourse,” she says. “So gay folks work with poverty advocates or pro-choice activists; we all worked on racial issues.”
She found her lifelong calling in 1994 when she moved to San Francisco to work for the National Center for Lesbian Rights. She became executive director in 1996. In the 11 years since, the center has taken on some of the most pivotal cases involving LGBT rights, with both victories and losses that alerted the nation to obstacles facing LGBT citizens.
In one case in 1996–a custody battle between a lesbian mother and a father who was a convicted murder–the court sided in favor of the father.
“That case really galvanized a national conversation and put a human face and unbelievable narrative around how deep-seeded homophobia can be when it comes to parents and custody,” said Kendell, who believes such a decision would never be handed down today.
Another high-profile case came by representing the partner of a woman killed in a notorious dog-mauling in California in 2001. “It was the first time ever in this country that a same-sex partner had been granted the legal recognition to sue for a wrongful death,” says Kendell. The gruesome, tragic nature of the case captivated Americans’ attention and “was important in educating the public about how marginal lesbian and gay relationships were under the law.”
In 2004, when San Francisco mayor Gavin Newsom issued marriage licenses to same-sex couples, the National Center for Lesbian Rights jumped into the fray, fending off legal assaults by anti-gay groups and mounting a defense after the marriages were halted. The case is now pending before the California Supreme Court.
Kendell says she is optimistic that the passage of time will only help her cause.
“The more Thanksgiving dinners made lively by gay and lesbian family members coming home and being themselves, the more we move pubic opinion,” she says.

Daisy Khan, Uniter of the Wise

“I felt that 9/11 forced the ‘Muslim woman’ identity on me,” says Daisy Khan, executive director of the New York-based American Society for Muslim Advancement. “Before, I had simply been a professional career woman. But the American public increasingly saw me through a politicized lens.”
Her response was to create the Women’s Islamic Initiative in Spirituality and Equity, known as WISE. In November 2006, the American Society for Muslim Advancement convened over 175 women to launch WISE as a global Muslim women’s network and movement.
“Many Muslim women around the world are denied their God-given rights. Literally,” says Khan, who was born in Kashmir, India. “We wanted to show that Muslim women are active in their communities and that Islam positively inspires their activism. We then wanted to convene these women on a scale that would draw worldwide attention to their efforts, which have been going on throughout the world, but which have not received the notice that they deserve.”
To that end, Khan ensured that WISE would represent the diversity of the Muslim world and include women from different backgrounds–national, professional, economic, ideological and theological.
Members include secular Muslim authors, Muslim women’s rights activists, traditionalists and a few women from other religions. Khan says the journey of Jewish and Christian women in America can provide some lessons for Muslim women who want to express their faith in a modern context while living within a traditional religious framework.
WISE plans to create a Muslim Women’s Fund for Social Justice to financially support projects aimed at empowering Muslim women at the grassroots level. WISE also plans to establish a global Shura Council comprised of Muslim female scholars and activists well versed in the language of Islamic law. This Council will generate a space in which Muslim women are able to actively hold dialogues, debate and collaborate with scholars on issues of Muslim women’s rights and responsibilities.
The other important task of WISE is to positively influence the Western, non-Muslim perception of Muslim women. Khan says that many female Muslim activists and scholars feel overlooked when the media questions the lack of moderate Muslims in society. But WISE’s short history gives her tremendous hope that they can successfully tackle a “crisis of global magnitude.”
“I am deeply inspired by the women of faith before us. Their triumphs give me hope that Muslim women today will drive the movement for positive change forward,” she says.

Rebekah Kiser, Healer of the Wounded

Becky Kiser celebrated her birthday in December 2003, by taking a trip to Ethiopia, eager to see the ancient sites. She ended up close to death, battling typhoid. A tour guide saved her life by taking her to get medical help. When she later returned to the country, she wanted to thank him.
It turned out he needed some help in return: His sister had developed a fistula, a post-pregnancy tear in the excretory organs. “It broke my heart,” Kiser recalls. Fistulas are easily repaired but millions of women in the developing world have been debilitated and left incontinent for lack of medical treatment.
After Kiser took the guide’s sister to the only hospital in Addis Ababa that treats fistula, she was impressed with the facility, and was inspired to help other women waiting for care.
Back at home, Kiser, a regional sales director for Mary Kay, told her story to colleagues and friends; they agreed to help raise money to aid women with fistula.
She returned with several thousand dollars and “realized it was illegal to do that without being a nongovernmental organization,” she says. “It took me 13 trips to Ethiopia until we got that last signature we needed. Everyone thought I was insane.”
The first phase of her project opened two years ago in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia’s capital. Kiser called it “The Trampled Rose.”
It’s a group home that so far has served over 600 women waiting for surgery, providing them shelter, food and, most important, basic literacy and education, including how to care for their fistula and preserve their hygiene.
Some of the women learn how to “spin silk, sell baskets, open a beauty salon, run a chicken farm,” says Kiser, and they can earn a livelihood. They also learn that their condition is purely medical, and not a curse or something worth a stigma, and they bring that idea back to women in their rural towns.
Kiser splits her time between Ethiopia and her hometown of Colorado Springs, where–in between selling makeup and training other saleswomen–she holds occasional fundraisers for The Trampled Rose, directing all funds to the staff in Ethiopia.
Next, she plans to implement running buses from rural areas to the hospital in Addis Ababa.
“These are brilliant women with hope for the future,” says Kiser. “I think it’s a stroke of luck that we were not born there.”

Sarah Seltzer is a writer for Women’s eNews in New York City.
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This is the end of 2007 – in a few hours, it will be 2008 – let’s make it great!

Tom 4 Prez has created TOP 5 PRIORITIES to define what he feels is important for US Citizens. If we can focus on these Top 5 Priorities – follow action steps – change is possible. Perseverance is key … working together makes it a little easier.

– Honor the American Dream*
– Encourage Eco-Lifestyles
– Defend Repro Justice
– Promote National Wellness
– Reclaim Patriotism


– Respect for each other/planet
– Take responsible actions
– Supportive communities
– Honor personal truths/spirit
– Separate church & state
– Religion/personal choices/freedoms

– Sustainable Development
– Alternative Energy
– Cleaner Environment/Healthy lives
– Affordable Housing
– Financial Management (personal & federal)

– Women’s Reproductive Health
– Maternity/Paternity Leave
– Affordable Childcare
– Family counseling
– Single Mother Support Groups

– Healthcare Access for all
– Alternative Medicine Freedom Act
– Spiritual Awareness Program
– Public School Reform
– Free Higher Education
– Investment in Science & Art
– Create Educational Entertainment

– Dept of Peace
– Acting Locally
– Global Partnership
– Magic Passion Love movement

* Tom 4 Prez recognizes the USA is only one member of the American Dream, there are many vibrant & diverse countries in North, Central & South America.

December 6, 2007, Trickydame & Tom 4 Prez gathered in the back room of Otto’s Shrunken Head in the East Village. Along with their friends, they performed for Peace on Earth & beyond!

Defenders of Peace

Lani Ford
Luke Degoao
Travis Trent
Cheryl B
Mama Spell

Portion of of the evening’s proceeds went to support New Yorkers for a Dept. of Peace

New Yorkers for a Department of Peace (NYDOP) is a citizen organization working to establish a cabinet-level, federally-funded, United States Department of Peace that would promote nonviolent conflict resolution including: prevention, education and training both domestically and internationally. Within a framework of respect and integrity, the NYDOP uses public outreach, education events, citizen training and media publications to empower ordinary citizens to exercise their civic duty; to organize groups of citizens to have greater impact on the Congressional process; and to practice the principles it seeks to achieve.

photos by Julie Staub

Defenders of Animal Rescue

A unique evening of entertainment for a unique cause,
Social Tees – Animal Rescue

Thursday, Oct 26, 2007 TRICKYDAME and her special co-host ARIEL SINCLAIR and special musical guest, MASLOW along with last minute extra special guest – MISSTRESS B gathered for an evening of performances and raffle prizes all to benefit Social Tees!

Defenders of Animal Rescue

Special Thanks to the people who contributed to the RAFFLE …

Handmade, Crocheted Bag
s made of plastic bags–sturdy, stylish, perfect for groceries or the beach. Thought you can’t recycle those nasty plastic bags? Well, now you can!
email: magdalena_alagna@yahoo.com

MenOpop, the world’s first menopause pop-up and activity book
buy at http://www.menopop.com

Jennifer Joyce, a consultant with a skin care and wellness company, Arbonne International, acertified vegan by Vegan Action and our packaging is all recyclable. The only way to purchase Arbonne’s products is through and independent consultant, like myself. So in addition to having wonderful products, thousands of people in the U.S. and Canada are achieving financial freedom and helping others create extraordinary lives and we have just started to go international. Here’s our website: https://www.arbonne.com/

Janice Formichella, Passion Parties are in-home parties for women who want it all. You’ll be able to sample and purchase personal and adult products for yourself or to use with your partner. Contact Janice for more info: janice.formichella@gmail.com

Nancy Karp, “Feed Your Chakra” custom meal. Contact Nancy for more info: nancy.karp@gmail.com

Special thanks to Tanya from the Cubby Hole for suggesting this cause to Defend.